the first snow or the star, heart attack or black pearl, white noise or one and only, angel or what is love, machine or transformer, forever or going crazy, walk on memories or she’s dreaming, miracles in december or sing for you, thunder or lady luck
you know how cartoon characters usually only have one outfit they’re always in? reblog this post with what your one outfit would be if you were a cartoon character.
mine would be my black shorts, a snapback, a t shirt, and my denim vest with a picture of a UFO on the back
Yesterday this country celebrated freedom and today a black man was shot in the chest 6 times by cops when all he was doing was trying to make a living. This is why black lives matter because this man wasn’t even resisting the cops yet they used such aggression with him and killed him. My heart and prayers go out to his family I’m so sorry that someone they love was taken from them in such a violent way. His name was Alton Sterling remember his name.
I just wanna say that some black folks do actually date outside their race because none of these black folks ever checks for them …. so what they gone do? Die alone cuz they can’t experience black love?
I wholeheartedly feel that way. Like I would not be shocked if I don’t end up with a black man …. even though that’s my goal …. that’s the motherfucking wave ….. but if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen
Everyone on here has this idealistic view of Black love and we tip toe around everything.
Niggas irl dont check for Black women especially if:
She dark skinned (cuz colorism is alive, well and often unchecked)
Big (fatphobia often goes unchecked cuz for many people, tumblr activism is just that. it stops when they log off)
Trans (transphobia is alwayyyys unchecked)
Not conventionally attractive (ya know what i mean)
So op is definitely right. Y'all need to acknowledge how these things affect Black love and who will and won’t be likely to experience it in this society, especially with the way things are going now in the community. Next time u see a Black girl with a non Black partner, think about it.
I’ve been saying this, but people love to hear what they want and pretend I just told them that Black Love can choke lmao
There are Black Women who had dreams of getting married and settling down, but Black Men are not checking for them (this and it could be geographical location as well). They feel as if they’re betraying Black People by dating outside of their race. The funny thing is, this type of mentality is mostly directed at Black Women in interracial relationships and not Black Men.
I find it harmful and truly performative when I see “activists” with large impressionable followings speaking about how in order to date outside your race you have to “compartmentalize” or hide a part of who you are. Like, what the hell is that. Honestly truly. Compartmentalism doesn’t have to come into play when you date outside your race.
Listen, People LOVE to project. If you cannot be genuinely Pro Black and support Black Rights with a Non Black partner.. that’s ALL you, boo. Don’t try to make others feel bad lmao. Do not let these “woke™” Tumblr blogs guilt you into thinking you do not support Black Love, Black People, Black Movements because you’re not dating a Black Person.
If you see any posts attempting to shame Black People by saying ish like “how can you overlook thousands of years of oppression” or something about anti blackness.. bruh. Anti Blackness is a global phenom. I can date a Black Man and meet his mama who hates dark skinned Black Women lmao
Now… if you’re actively seeking out non Black partners,avoiding Black People at all cost, and have internalized racism. You gotta fix that and love yourself.
White men ask me out and black men act like they’re disgusted when I even look their way. I’m introverted, but that doesn’t mean I want to end up alone, but If I waited around for a black guy to ask me out, I would be alone. So when I do date it’s usually outside of my race. I feel like you’ve got to do double the work when you date a white guy (or a guy of another race ).
There’s so much to worry about. Does he have a fetish. Is with out because he thinks you as a black women can do no better? Or you a scratch off on his bucket list? Is he racist? You must have the discussion about race and racism, you must! You have to see how his family, friends, and co-workers will react to you. Do they smile in your face and talk shit behind your back? Do they make passive-aggressive comments when your around, or do they flat out tell you how they feel? How will the people around you feel? When you get into an interracial relationship you find out real quick who your true friends are. People can’t hid their real feelings back when it comes to interracial dating. The truth will out.
I believe that IR relationships can work, but you have to do work, and anyone who says you don’t is lying. I’m not saying your relationship is going to be like a Tyler Perry movie, but there will be added stress from somewhere. Doesn’t matter if their friends and family or cool, someone close to one of you will have a negative opinion about your relationship. These are just some things I wish someone had told me before I dated outside of my race for the first time.
Like people ridicule black women for being ‘bitter’ or ‘alone and miserable’ but at the same time expect them to wait for a black man to deem them worthy. So why would I sit and wait for a black man to acknowledge my existence if I know a non black man will? Like either way other. Lack people are gonna shun me, so I might as well be happy while it’s happening.
This conversation is all the way real.
Thank you for speaking on my sentiments. I feel the same way…Ain’t no need to be dried up and shriveled like a raisin while “waiting” on the proverbial “Good Black Man” purple unicorn to make his grand entrance {insert sarcasm here}, or take interest. Love your life boo, live it how you please, and fuck a hater. Love knows no color bounds. I’ll be damned if I let anyone tell me I can’t be Pro-Black and date a man outside my race when most brothers have done nothing but try to denigrate and destroy me emotionally. It’s time out for all that. Whatever shade love comes in for me, I will embrace it.
Literally all of my past boyfriends have been non black and when black men have given me shit for it, I just say “black men don’t want me.” And then I usually hear how I need to wait around for a strong black King. Why? Why can they date outside their race (and openly brag about it) but I’m supposed to wait? I’ll love whoever shows me respect and love, whatever race they are.
Oh and the argument with IR dating that you have to worry about fetishism and racism? How many black guys fetishize mixed or light skinned or just black women in general? Talking about supporting us because we’ve got ass and titties etc. how many black men have internalized misogynoir? Like I’m over it tbh I know that I’m most likely not going to end up with a black man and I’ve come to accept it
THIS
Y'all are definitely right about people not being able to handle IR relationships. The most pc, liberal, Kumbaya people flip out over the fact that my fiancé is white. The racism starts pouring out faster than they can speak sometimes. And *always* finishes with a squeal of delight over the fact that our babies will be SO EXOTIC AND SEXY. So disgusting, plus it always reminds me of that Twitter joke of everyone wants a mixed baby until it comes out looking like Frederick Douglas.
I’ve had to check myself of feeling embarrassed or ashamed when I’m out with him. I love him fiercely and without hesitation but the looks I get sometimes from Black couples and individual people of color is demoralizing. The fact that even though I’m wearing a big ass ring and we’re sitting close to each other/holding hands, waiters/cashiers/other service people always ask if we’re together or separate. (And before the service defenders attack, we’ve dined together with other couples and the server automatically puts their checks together without asking…it happens literally every time) The fact that men of color have hit on me directly in front of him. The disappointed looks and tone of my mother’s voice when she mentions him. How she gushes about everyone else’s wedding and can barely muster a smile for mine. It’s a million little jabs all the time.
I’m almost 32 and he’s my first White partner. Previously, my serious partners have all been Black. I never thought my life partner was going to be White tbh. It was always a person of color in my head when I thought about it. My most recent ex always joked that we would have never gotten together if I had ever dated/slept with a White person. Yet he had and cheated on me with White girls. My college bf lamented over the fact that I was “dirty red” aka too dark to be considered a redbone but too light to be considered dark or brown skinned. Both of them hated my real hair. Via online dating, I discovered the myriad of things men of various colors considered wrong with me. My fiancé was the first person outside of my very best friend to celebrate and love everything about me. To tell me that he wanted the real me, that it was okay to just “be”, and that he loved me exactly the way I was. That’s 100% worth all the side eye on the world.
I appreciate this post so much. I would love to experience Black love but I am also not opposed to dating out of my race, and sometimes I feel guilty for liking someone outside of my race (especially if they’re white). And I feel as though people may think that bc I’m pro-Black and I’m critical of White people, how could I possibly date one? And I see a lot of that stupid mentality on tumblr with some of these Black tumblr (the ones I’ve seen were actually from Black women!) users and it’s really off putting and lame. But then I keep reminding myself that I nor any Black woman owe Black men anything, especially a hand in marriage.
Interracial relationships are a lot of work, and especially in this political climate, you have to really determine whether your partner understands the intersectional struggles you have to deal with. But if y’all are understanding of each other and really listen to each other, things will be ok. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your relationship. Especially Black men. I can’t afford to sit around and wait for my Black knight in shining armor, if I find love outside of my race I’m not going to shy waway from that.
I was trying to explain this to my friend. Like black men just don’t talk to me lol. I live in a very diverse city, go to a school that has a high black population. The only time I had one talk to me was because he wanted the notes for class. I mostly get hit on by Asian and White guys. And as long as it isn’t a fetish, or they want to “try” a black woman then I’m cool. I won’t wait around for a black man to finally look my way. I’m gone live my life.
Not just Black men, Black women have never thought I was attractive or checked for me, so what should I do go live in a cave?
I feel like green is an underrated colour
like idk people seem to often go to red and purple and black and stuff but like
just take a second to appreciate how pretty green is
green is not a creative color
NO.
WE DO NOT BRING THAT UP
Reblog to save a life
Note from a graphic designer who has to fix this shit all day: rich black is prettier sure but for the love of the gods don’t use it for text if it’s going on newsprint. If its anything other than solid black it will bleed out and become unreadable.
Half my job is fixing this mistake all day from people who really really should know better. And now you know!
fact, black cats are less likely to be adopted because of superstition. re blog if you love these little bundles of fur just as much as any other kitty.
